What does our group do?

Sex Positive Utah is a community of open-minded, alive, and awake people. We are a volunteer organization that relies on the involvement of members. Our focus is on building a community where we pursue education and self-improvement, work on releasing shame, and where we explore and play together in a safe, welcoming, and consensual environment. We believe that sexual energy is a powerful tool for transformation, healing, solidifying relationships, and building community, and we develop that energy by sharing ideas and experiences with each other.

Our events include classes, discussion groups, workshops, socials, parties, facilitated play, experiential events, and more. We host events online, in the homes of members, and sometimes in public at a park, bar, club, or somewhere similar. Events are hosted and facilitated by volunteer members or professionals brought in for the event. We keep the costs low, just enough to cover the costs of the event and running the group. Many events are free or by donation.

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Come, learn, play, and grow with us!

***Please note, this is NOT a group for dating or hooking-up for sex***

Before you apply, please read the information below thoroughly. Once you have read it, you may complete your application to join our Meetup group.

We require applicants to the Sex Positive Utah Meetup group to fill out an application, which is reviewed by actual humans, so please click the 'Join' button on the Meetup page and answer the questions thoroughly and thoughtfully. If we have concerns about your answers we will return it to you and ask for clarification. Your answers become your profile for the group, which is viewable by all members of the group. This is one way we get to know each other so that we feel safe with each other at events. Recognizable profile pictures and names help all of our members feel safe and help everyone get to know you. If you do not have a recognizable profile picture and name, your application may be rejected. If you are partnered or coupled you must complete separate profiles and applications.

Sex Positive Utah is a chapter of Sex Positive World: https://www.sexpositiveworld.org/

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What is Sex Positivity?

Sex positivity is a social movement and philosophy which regards all consensual expressions of sexuality as healthy, encourages sexual pleasure and experimentation, places an emphasis on informed consent, and advocates sex education and risk-aware sex. Sex-positivity makes no moral distinctions among types of sexual expression, orientation or identification, regarding these choices as matters of personal preference.

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About Events

Events are categorized Level 1 through 4. Moving between levels is a partnership between the member and the group organizers. It involves attending events, getting to know other members, feeling comfortable navigating boundaries and consent, and then having a conversation with the organizers about readiness to attend higher level events.

Level 1 - These are social or educational events which do not involve touch or exchange of sexual energy. Discussion groups, workshops, classes, socials, outings, etc. are L1 Events and they are open to anyone.

Level 2 - These events are sensual but not sexual. They may include non-sexual touch and nudity, and are nurturing and affectionate but not intended to arouse. Examples of L2 events are snuggle parties, group massage, and sensation play. Attendees are expected to foster a culture of consent and to respect the boundaries of others, as well as to skillfully communicate and enforce their own boundaries. In order to attend L2 events members must attend a series of L1 events, including an Orientation event and a Boundaries event, and show that they are able to skillfully navigate those situations.

Level 3 - These events are sexy and may involve nudity and sexual touch. Arousal and exchange of sexual energy are encouraged, but penetration is not allowed and there is no intention to drive to orgasm. To attend L3 events, members must have a history of attending L2 events and must have shown organizers they have the skills to skillfully navigate boundaries and consent and to contribute to the fun and exploration at L3 events.

Level 4 - These events are explicitly sexual within the boundaries of consent. We only hold L4 events when we have enough experienced facilitators to ensure that they are safe and rewarding. Please note: we do not list L4 events on Meetup.com due to Meetup regulations.

If you have not attended events recently, your level may be adjusted down until the active members get to know you again. We want everyone to feel safe at every event.

Be sure to read the full description of the event so you know what to expect. As always, attendees are at choice at all events. We never want anyone to do anything they don't enthusiastically consent to.

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Group Rules

Members must be at least 21 years of age.

Most events are alcohol and substance-free. Any exceptions, such as a social at a bar, will be explicitly stated in the event description.

A strong culture of consent and strong boundaries are crucial to safety at events. We honor each other's boundaries, honor the boundaries of each event (L1, L2, L3, etc.), and negotiate consent in everything we do. No one is ever expected to do anything they don't want to do or to interact with anyone they don't want to interact with.

If you have a question, please ask! It is likely that someone else has the same question.

Sex Positive Utah is not a dating or hookup group. We strive to create emotional safety for all our members and approaching the group as a dating or hookup group can alienate the members of our group who are not open to or interested in those things. If your primary intentions are community, education, self-improvement, and playful exploration, then please join us! If your primary intention is looking for sexual partners or hookups, then this group and our events will disappoint you and you'll be happier with a group dedicated to that purpose. Relationships might emerge organically over time between members, but this is not the primary goal of the group and shouldn't be the motivation for attending events. We ask our members to continually examine their motives and make sure they align with the goals of community, education, self-improvement, and playful exploration before attending events.

Sending direct messages of a personal nature or social media friend requests to other members requires consent, negotiated in person. If there is another member that you want to contact, please connect in person at two or three events first. Following that, the best approach is to offer them your own contact information. If they have a desire to be in contact with you outside of events, they will reciprocate. Members who send unsolicited direct messages may be removed from the group. If you meet other members outside of a facilitated group event, we recommend you meet first in a safe, public place.

Confidentiality is vital. Please respect everyone's confidentiality by not discussing details of events, refraining from taking photographs, and not "outing" anyone if you encounter them in other contexts.

If anything happens at an event that you feel uncomfortable with, or if you have an uncomfortable interaction with a person in the group, please confidentially contact one of our Accountability Contacts, who will be introduced at every event, or one of the group organizers.

You made it! To show that you've carefully read all our group rules, please put the word FRIES in your application to show that you've read and understood everything! FRIES is an acronym Planned Parenthood proposed to help you remember the rules of consent. Consent is: Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic and Specific.

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We look forward to seeing you at an event soon!

~ Your Sex Positive Utah Team